There’s a pattern I’ve noticed more and more lately, and once you see it, you can’t unsee it. When people are hurt, some of them don’t process that pain privately or directly. They don’t sit with it. They don’t face the person involved. Instead, they turn outward, to an audience. They post.They perform. They curate … More Healing Is Quiet. Performance Needs an Audience.
Heartbreak is something every person eventually encounters, but we rarely talk about what sits beneath it, the truth that quietly connects all of us: Everyone who has ever experienced heartbreak has likely caused it for someone else. That realization hit me harder than the pain itself. It’s one thing to feel shattered by someone.It’s another … More We Are All Both the Wounded and the Wounding
There’s something strange and beautiful about the Christmas season.The lights go up, the air gets colder, and somehow the world feels both softer and heavier at the same time. The holidays carry joy, but they also tug on old memories, old wounds, and old versions of ourselves that we’re not always ready to revisit. And … More Why Christmas Calls Us to Forgive, Believe, and Hope Again
We live in a world obsessed with physical ability, how fast you are, how strong you are, how genetically gifted you might be. But the truth, the one elite warriors and elite athletes have known for generations, is this: Your body is never the real limitation. Your mind is. Navy SEALs don’t become extraordinary because … More THE MIND THAT NEVER BREAKS: OVERCOMING ANY WEAKNESS THROUGH MENTAL DOMINANCE
I’ve spent years studying transformation, writing about it, teaching it, and living it. And the more people I’ve worked with, the more convinced I am of one simple truth: Lasting change begins with just two decisions. Not ten. Not twenty. Two. 1. Be brutally honest with yourself. 2. Let go of the past you’re still … More The Two Decisions That Change Everything: Honesty and Letting Go
For some people, Christmas is lights, laughter, and tradition. For others… this will be their first Christmas alone. The first one without the spouse.The first one without the parent.The first one without the child.The first one without the dog that once made the house feel alive.The first one without the voice that made the season … More Your First Christmas Without Them: How to Find Joy Without Erasing the Sorrow
Some people believe that all humans are the same. But Scripture disagrees. We are equal in value,but not identical in purpose. “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.”— Romans 12:6 Some are built to lead nations. Some are built to build families. Some are built to heal wounds. And … More Built Different: Why God Designs Some of Us for the Broken
There’s a quiet truth about relationships most people never talk about: Two people can love each other in completely different ways… and still find a way forward. Not because it’s easy. Not because everything is perfectly aligned. But because mature love recognizes something most modern culture doesn’t: **Love isn’t always about matching capacities, sometimes it’s … More When Two People Love Differently, and Why It Doesn’t Have to Mean the End
For some people, peace doesn’t feel safe, it feels unfamiliar.After years of living in instability, the quiet can be unsettling. When life has conditioned someone to equate love with chaos, calmness doesn’t register as love at all. It feels like a trap. The Cycle of Projection In psychology, this is often called projection, the mind’s … More When Chaos Feels Like Home
Opening: Set the Stage Gently Some of the most confusing relationships we encounter are the ones where the person we try hardest to help, ends up hurting us the most. It can leave us questioning: Why would someone sabotage the very thing keeping them afloat? The answer, more often than we realize, lies in unhealed … More When Safe Feels Dangerous: The Hidden Trauma Behind Emotional Lashing Out
Troy P Zehnder 