There’s a moment in adulthood that no one really prepares you for. You don’t feel old. You don’t feel finished. You don’t feel like life should be passing you by. But quietly, almost imperceptibly, something shifts. You stop feeling automatically wanted. For many men, that moment arrives somewhere after 35. Not all at once. Not … More When You Start Feeling Replaceable
I believe every person carries unspoken thoughts about someone in their life. Things we feel deeply but never express. Not because we don’t care, but because we’re afraid. Afraid of rejection. Afraid of looking foolish. Afraid of changing the dynamic. Afraid of hearing an answer we can’t undo. So instead, we stay silent. We convince … More The Things We Never Say
Lately I’ve been paying more attention to people. Not in a judgmental way, more in a quiet, observational way. The kind where you sit in a coffee shop, the gym, the grocery store, scroll social media, and just notice patterns. How people talk. How they present themselves. How relationships form, and how quickly they fall … More Trying to Find Depth in a Culture Built for Distraction
There’s a shift that happens in life that most of us never learn how to name. When things are moving forward, when momentum exists, when effort feels aligned with progress, we tend to feel invincible. Not reckless. Not arrogant. Just solid. Grounded. Present. As though we exist in the world in a way that has … More Invincible, Invisible, and the Weight of Certain Voices
As men get older, something subtle, but dangerous, often happens. Our world quietly shrinks. Friends drift. Life gets busy. Romantic relationships become the center of gravity. And before we realize it, we’re doing life alone far more than we should. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the importance of having a wingman, not in … More Why Every Man Needs a Wingman
There are different ways men show up in relationships, and there are different ways women perceive and categorize them, often without ever saying it out loud. These categories aren’t always intentional, but patterns don’t need intent to be real. As I spent time reflecting on relationships, four familiar roles became clear. Not as accusations, but … More The Types of Men Women See in Relationships
There are moments when clarity doesn’t arrive through pain, argument, or explanation, it arrives quietly, almost gently. This morning it came to me as a simple thought: Water always settles at its own level. It doesn’t force itself upward. It doesn’t resent gravity. It doesn’t argue with the container holding it. It simply rests where … More We Just Are Who We Are
I’ve watched Forrest Gump more times than I can count. Like most people, I remembered the quotes, the humor, the nostalgia. But watching it again recently, something quieter surfaced, something that had less to do with the movie and more to do with life. Forrest knew what love was early. Jenny didn’t. That difference shaped … More Peas and Carrots
There are two statements people often reach for when the topic of age and relationships comes up: “Age is irrelevant when love is involved.”“Love is irrelevant when age is involved.” They sound like opposites. In reality, they are shortcuts, ways of avoiding a more uncomfortable conversation. Because the real issue has never been age alone. … More When Love and Age Collide
People sometimes ask why I write so often. Why I blog. Why I coach, speak, teach, and keep returning to the same themes of growth, discipline, faith, leadership, and becoming whole. The honest answer is simple: I write because silence would be dishonest. Writing has always been the place where clarity forms. Before ideas are … More Why I Write, and Why I Keep Showing Up
Troy P Zehnder 