Troy P Zehnder

We live in a world where self-interest often takes center stage. Society teaches us to seek personal success, to chase after happiness, and to measure our worth by how much we achieve or how much we gain. But what if, sometimes, life isn’t about us at all?

What if our role in someone else’s story is not to be the hero, but the guide? What if our purpose in a particular season of life is to give more than we receive?

The Illusion of Self-Centered Living

Pride tells us that everything should work in our favor. We subconsciously ask, How does this benefit me? How will this make me happy? But the truth is, not every relationship, opportunity, or moment exists for our gain. Sometimes, we are placed in people’s lives for their sake, not ours.

Consider the mentors who invest time in others but never see the rewards. Think of the parents who sacrifice their dreams to ensure their children can chase theirs. Or the friends who support someone through a dark time without expecting anything in return. These people understand a truth we often resist: fulfillment doesn’t always come from getting—it comes from giving.

When Sacrifice is the Answer

There are times in life when we must make choices that don’t benefit us directly. We may have to put aside our desires for the sake of someone else’s happiness. That doesn’t mean we become doormats or lose our sense of self-worth, but it does mean we recognize that love, kindness, and wisdom often demand sacrifice.

Not everyone will be happy at the same time. Not everyone will get what they want in the way they want it. And that’s okay. Sometimes, the right thing to do is to let go of what we want so someone else can grow, heal, or thrive.

The Freedom in Letting Go

When we release the need to make everything about ourselves, we gain a new perspective. We begin to see the beauty in helping others flourish. We learn that happiness isn’t just about what we receive, but about what we contribute.

Ironically, when we stop making everything about us, we often find a deeper sense of purpose and joy. Because in lifting others up, we rise too.

So the next time life presents a moment where you feel unseen, unappreciated, or like you’re giving more than you’re getting—pause. Maybe, just maybe, this moment isn’t about you. And maybe, that’s exactly the way it’s supposed to be.