One thing I’ve learned over the years is that God’s timing almost never looks clean or linear. People like straight lines, together or not, yes or no, stay or go. But God works in seasons, cycles, and timing deeper than our understanding.
Sometimes He brings two people together at the perfect moment…not because they are ready,
but because He wants to awaken something in them.
A connection can be real, powerful, even life-changing, yet still arrive before both people are emotionally mature, spiritually grounded, or healed enough to handle it correctly. So God does what only God can do: He separates them. Not out of punishment. Not out of anger. But out of purpose. Separation isn’t the end. It’s preparation. During that space apart, both hearts are refined:
- pride breaks
- wounds surface
- trauma gets exposed
- old habits confront us
- growth begins
- clarity forms
- faith deepens
And sometimes… after the dust settles and the lessons sink in… God brings the same two souls back into each other’s lives, not as the people they once were, but as the people they were meant to become.
To the outside world, this looks crazy. People judge what they don’t understand: “Why talk to them again?” “Aren’t you done with that?” “Haven’t you moved on?” But most people only see circumstances. They don’t see calling. They don’t see timing. They don’t see growth. They don’t see what God is doing beneath the surface.
It’s easy to write someone off as “a mistake.” It’s harder, and more spiritual, to recognize when a connection is part of your refinement. Not everyone who reappears should be let back in. But not everyone who left was meant to be gone forever.
God will never waste a connection He ordained. He will test it. He will refine it. He will separate it.
And if it has purpose, He will bring it back in a healthier, stronger form, in His timing, not ours.
Whether it’s friendship, family, or love… sometimes God’s “pulling apart” is really just Him making sure both hearts grow enough to meet each other where they were always meant to stand.
Troy P Zehnder 