A man once told me something his father taught him: “You’re either in a storm, coming out of a storm, or heading into a storm.” The older I get, the more I realize how true those words are.
Life is not a straight path. It is not a constant climb upward toward success, happiness, and fulfillment. Life is more like walking through a mountain range. Sometimes we are climbing. Sometimes we are descending. Sometimes we are simply trying to make it through the valley.
And if you look at a mountain range, there is something interesting you will notice. The peaks are narrow. You can spend years climbing toward the top. You can sacrifice, work, struggle, and push yourself beyond what you thought you could do. Then suddenly, you reach the summit.
The view is incredible. For a moment, everything makes sense. You can see how far you have come. You can appreciate the effort it took to get there. But the reality is that you do not stay on the peak very long.
The majority of your journey is spent in the valleys. The valleys are wide. They are where the roads are built. They are where the rivers flow. They are where communities grow. Yet when we find ourselves in the valley, we often believe something has gone wrong. We assume we have failed. We assume we have lost momentum. We assume we are somehow behind everyone else. But maybe the valley is not a sign that we are lost. Maybe it is simply part of the journey.
One of the hardest things in life is that people often see your mountaintops but rarely see your valleys. They see the accomplishment but not the years of preparation. They see the finished product but not the failures behind it. They see the confidence but not the battles that created it. And sometimes, the people who appear the strongest are the ones carrying the heaviest loads.
They are the people everyone calls when something breaks. The person who gives advice. The person who solves problems. The person who shows up. The person who encourages everyone else. But what happens when that person reaches a valley? What happens when the person who has always carried others realizes they need someone to help carry them? That is a difficult place to be.
Because when people know you as the strong one, they sometimes forget that strength does not mean you never get tired. It does not mean you never struggle. It does not mean you never need support. Even the strongest people have valleys. The mistake we often make is believing that the valley means we have lost our purpose.
But throughout history, some of the greatest lessons, greatest transformations, and greatest moments of growth have happened in the valleys. The wilderness. The waiting. The uncertainty. The rebuilding. Those moments are uncomfortable because they force us to confront a question:
Who are we when the results are not visible? Who are we when nobody is applauding? Who are we when the work is being done, but the reward has not arrived yet? Those questions are difficult. But they are also important. Because a mountain peak can show you what you have accomplished. The valley shows you who you are.
The valley reveals whether your foundation is strong enough to build on. Maybe the goal in life is not to find a peak where we never have to come down. Maybe the goal is to find a foundation strong enough that when the next storm comes, we are still standing. Because storms will come. Valleys will come.
The question is not whether we will face them. The question is what we will build while we are there. And sometimes, the people who feel the most unseen in the valley are the very people who will one day help someone else find their way out.
Because only someone who has walked through the valley understands how much someone else needs a hand when they are there.
Every valley has a lesson. Every storm has the potential to transform us. But transformation rarely happens when life is easy. It happens when we are forced to discover what we are made of, what truly matters, and who we are becoming.
In Finding Your Transformative Life, I explore the process of moving beyond the circumstances that define us and discovering the purpose, growth, and transformation that can come from the challenges we face.
Your valley is not the end of your story.
Sometimes, it is where the next chapter begins.
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